The winning formula for a romantic getaway does not involve little black velvet boxes or little blue pills. It is only this: Let her make the decisions. Just rig things so you're honestly smiling at her choices. Start with "How about Cape Cod?" Here's what to expect from there: "A long beach walk? Sure, we'll cruise six-mile Sandy Neck Beach, north of Barnstable. We can snuggle in the dunes and, uh, I'll bring my surfcasting rod, just in case. A road ride? Yeah, the 30-mile out-and-back from Wellfleet to Provincetown looks fun [get maps and advice from the Bike Zone, in Hyannis; 508-775-3299]. Surfing? Really? Kinda cold … Oh, you brought your five-millimeter suit. OK, you can rent a longboard in Wellfleet [$20; sickdaysurfshop.com] and we'll go to White Crest Beach. I'll watch. And honey, the hotel is up to you, but I thought you might like Chatham Bars Inn [chathambars-inn.com]. They have these roomy cottages [$330 per night]. I love you, too, babe."